Though we ’ve blab a lot about dumping via text message , the burning question put to our resident love doctor is : Can you demand someone out via text message ? And can you do it with video ?
As engineering evolves , the numeral of ways to ask someone out on a day of the month grows and grows until one daylight you get a Farmville Cupig and wonder if it ’s honey . Or something . The room I see it , as long as the aim of your affection texts and texts often , I recall it ’s a fine way to go . Just ensure you ’re originative , adorable or flirtatious about ask someone on a date . If not , then you ’re just being slothful which is untempting to most .
And please , for the love of the text edition gods , use full words rather than something like “ uranium desire 2 go 2 the picture show w / me ? ” It only takes two more letters to pen the whole word “ you ” ! And “ to ” is only one more character than “ 2 ” ! If you desire someone to pass hours of their valued time with you when they could be date stamp someone else or stalking their ex ’s Facebook profile , then please take a few second to come up with the most creative text edition ever with which to ask them out .
If you ’re too nervous to call and necessitate them out , say so in the text — that could be flattering and endearing . A video invite would be awesome and could show off your dedication and talents ; just do n’t do anything that would utterly embarrass yourself as too many multitude would show off your video invite to their 12 closest friends .
You could also create an event on Facebook ( make it a secret / closed event , seeable only to her ) and invite her to attend . It ’s more modern than Evite and she can sync the effect with her Outlook calendar . If you want to go older school , call her up . If she does n’t answer , sing a made - up song into her voice mail , asking her out . Does she wish letters and regular older postal mail ? Send her a letter need her out . Technology allow us to introduce but it can also make it too easygoing to be lazy so check that to employ it to your advantage .
ensure the medium you use shows off your best side . If you show someone what you ’ve got and they ’re not into it , seek to not take it as a rejection of you . It just may not be the right fit . An artist friend of mine recount the story of how he showed up with a beautiful picture as a endowment for a first a particular date . Though past dates had been have aback by his forwardness , this particular woman seemed extend to . A few years later , they married . So I say wear your heart on your sleeve , if you may : you will likely get turn down a few metre but when you come across the right-hand person , it will be worth it .
Read more ofDr . Debby ’s honey advice hereduring Gizmodo ’s Bad Valentine celebration .
Debby Herbenick , PhD is a Research Scientist and Associate Director ofThe Center for Sexual Health Promotionat Indiana University , a sexual health pedagog atThe Kinsey Instituteand author ofBecause It Feels Good : A Woman ’s templet to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction . She blogs atMySexProfessor.com .
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