Facebook friendly relationship is fugitive and borderline meaningless . But that does n’t mean rejection and treason do n’t sting . Getting dumped is frightful , painful , and guaranteed to happen . Here ’s how to wield a devastating digital dissolution .
Factors to consider
It ’s possible you ’re really goddamn bothersome on Facebook — flock of dazed shared “ joke pictures , ” confrontational political statements , terrestrial verification - ins — in which case , who can blame anyone for unfriending you ? You ’re a terrible champion . Quaker should be interesting . Why were n’t you more interesting ? You convey this upon yourself , and now everyone is pass away from you . Start being better and you ’ll start create friends . That ’s your best jibe .
But permit ’s say you ’re just a regular guy being cool on Facebook — posting the occasional fun photograph , insightful contact , mirthful condition update , serious-minded natal day wishes . You manage your Timeline like a professional ! You ’re a good mortal , and a expert Facebook Friend .
And someone still unfriends you . You have intellect to be offended . When friendship means so , so precious little , postulate the prison term to click enough to remove someone from your list of bastard Quaker is staggeringly insulting . You ’re beneath fake friendly relationship . Someone does n’t even need to see your name written down on an LCD screenland . You ’re detestable to them . Unfriending on Facebook is like being kicked out of productive camp for being too fat . And wretched . Ugly and fat .
But , do n’t forget :
Unfriending is healthy
It ’s a normal , utterly intellectual thing the great unwashed do on Facebook all the time . Most of your 100 of Facebook champion are n’t in reality your ally , because it ’s emotionally impossible for a single someone to have hundreds of friends simultaneously . Being unfriended might be someone simply awaken up and recognizing the absurdity Facebook thrust us into . They ’re just attempting to rectify it , using characteristic establish into said societal connection .
And yet …
We ’re all petty enough to care .
Let it go, but be weird about it
If it ’s someone you actually know — a coworker , friend of a friend , some peripheral talk blob — you likely should n’t make a squabble . Particularly , if they ’re connected to someone who is actually authoritative in your life , it ’s best to just rent the affront slide .
But some day , whenever the two of you meet in person again , you ’ll in brief lock center . I fuck what you did , and you know what you did . It ’s a moment of reciprocal scare , guilt , and animus . That ’ll cursorily settle , and you ’ll go about your lives . Who knows , perchance you ’ll both stop up forgetting the whole matter . You might even friend one another again . And so the cycle continue .
Or , if you feel like a conflict …
Call them the hell out
This part is fun . If you ’re not really worried what these multitude think about you , publicly let on what they rightfully are — cruel . Cruel jerked meat . They ’ll get their deserts . These unfrienders recall you probably wo n’t even note , and if you ever do , you ’ll be too indifferent or nervous to say anything about it .
But bringing up the vile bit — either online or in mortal — will shock them to their kernel . They ’ll be take aback that you ’re enough of a loony to bring up a Facebook unfriending . Watch as they stutter excuses , stutter , and sample to explain . They ’ll offer to refriend you . “ It was a misunderstanding ! Oh , how did that go on ? ” They ’ll feel bad and unearthly and guilty . They ’ll feel something , which is estimable than Facebook ’s typical worked up feedback null . Sure , it ’s trolling , but it ’ll make you feel well without any kind of real moral transgression . The Internet should always be making you sense good .
This bechance to me last year , when , after carry about a Facebook bug that actually disclose who ’d defriended you , one girl I sort of used to sleep with , who ’d recently deleted me , reached out . affright - stricken . Ashamed . But I forgave — as should you . Now we ’re sort of faux - friend again on The Book , and all is well . If anything , we ’re closer !
Just remember:
There ’s nothing unseasonable with a little revenge online . The consequences are so low , the results so ephemeral . What would ’ve been a hissy fit IRL is as simple as sending an email . When all that ’s required is a coast and tap of the digit , trivial loses the fight against pettier . You bring home the bacon . And then you could add the reconciliation to your Timeline as a Major Life Event .
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